Comments on: Reevaluating http://childplay.wordpress.com/2008/02/04/reevaluating/ Chaos Theory: What you get when you take a Naturalist, a Golfer, and a Sassy Princess and homeschool them. Fri, 11 Dec 2009 03:22:07 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Stephanie http://childplay.wordpress.com/2008/02/04/reevaluating/#comment-996 Stephanie Tue, 05 Feb 2008 16:41:50 +0000 http://childplay.wordpress.com/?p=252#comment-996 I think that you might be finding yourself in a pendulum swing. You were far to one side for a long, long time, and when it finally dropped free, of course you swung far to the other. For me, things like this are tough because I so believe that raising children with unconditional love and understanding and acceptance will save the world. I also believe that the way we (in our mainstream society) treat our children is the way that women (and slaves and serfs) were treated for a long, long time, with assumptions that others were superior and knew what was best for us, with pats on the head and there-there's little lady. Most insulting! It's the same, for me. So I agree with Sheri-luv, I think that maybe acknowledging and honoring your feelings is important, and might more quickly settle you down into a comfortable place of being. xxoo and much loves to you. Steph I think that you might be finding yourself in a pendulum swing. You were far to one side for a long, long time, and when it finally dropped free, of course you swung far to the other.

For me, things like this are tough because I so believe that raising children with unconditional love and understanding and acceptance will save the world.
I also believe that the way we (in our mainstream society) treat our children is the way that women (and slaves and serfs) were treated for a long, long time, with assumptions that others were superior and knew what was best for us, with pats on the head and there-there’s little lady.
Most insulting! It’s the same, for me.

So I agree with Sheri-luv, I think that maybe acknowledging and honoring your feelings is important, and might more quickly settle you down into a comfortable place of being.

xxoo and much loves to you.
Steph

]]> By: Sheri http://childplay.wordpress.com/2008/02/04/reevaluating/#comment-994 Sheri Tue, 05 Feb 2008 12:22:55 +0000 http://childplay.wordpress.com/?p=252#comment-994 I think that feeling "snarky" is what happens when we feel so threatened for so long. It's natural, it's normal, and it will eventually fade away. I promise that one morning you'll wake up and it won't be there. Everything will just be....Zen. Hugs to you and yours. I think that feeling “snarky” is what happens when we feel so threatened for so long. It’s natural, it’s normal, and it will eventually fade away. I promise that one morning you’ll wake up and it won’t be there. Everything will just be….Zen. Hugs to you and yours.

]]> By: Stephanie http://childplay.wordpress.com/2008/02/04/reevaluating/#comment-992 Stephanie Tue, 05 Feb 2008 05:34:48 +0000 http://childplay.wordpress.com/?p=252#comment-992 If'n you're interested, I've got some love for you at OLM. Come by anytime to get it. xo Steph If’n you’re interested, I’ve got some love for you at OLM.
Come by anytime to get it.
xo
Steph

]]> By: The Joyful Mom http://childplay.wordpress.com/2008/02/04/reevaluating/#comment-991 The Joyful Mom Mon, 04 Feb 2008 16:56:35 +0000 http://childplay.wordpress.com/?p=252#comment-991 I so totally feel you as well! My resolution for this year was to relax. So far its working pretty well for us. :) I so totally feel you as well!

My resolution for this year was to relax. So far its working pretty well for us. :)

]]> By: SwissArmyWife http://childplay.wordpress.com/2008/02/04/reevaluating/#comment-990 SwissArmyWife Mon, 04 Feb 2008 13:29:52 +0000 http://childplay.wordpress.com/?p=252#comment-990 Oh no. It's february for you to? I hate February. it makes me think about things! *GASP* Just so you know... we are "reactive unschoolers" as well. :-) Oh no. It’s february for you to? I hate February. it makes me think about things! *GASP*

Just so you know… we are “reactive unschoolers” as well. :-)

]]> By: Cathy T http://childplay.wordpress.com/2008/02/04/reevaluating/#comment-989 Cathy T Mon, 04 Feb 2008 13:23:34 +0000 http://childplay.wordpress.com/?p=252#comment-989 I found your bog recently and can see that we have some things in common - my husband can't believe how hsers can be and then how I and our family can fit in. But we do. I've been hsing for 9 years now and though we float in and out of groups - stay until I can't be tolerant anymore :) because my buttons have been pushed too much - I do love it. I EMBRACE our family life and how hsing gives us so much freedom to explore the things my kids are interested in. As for math club, we haven't tried anything like that but what I have found is that some things that bother me or my husband just are off the kids' radar and that is probably a good thing. Even I can learn more about myself and my issues as I hs my kiddos. I found your bog recently and can see that we have some things in common – my husband can’t believe how hsers can be and then how I and our family can fit in. But we do. I’ve been hsing for 9 years now and though we float in and out of groups – stay until I can’t be tolerant anymore :) because my buttons have been pushed too much – I do love it. I EMBRACE our family life and how hsing gives us so much freedom to explore the things my kids are interested in.

As for math club, we haven’t tried anything like that but what I have found is that some things that bother me or my husband just are off the kids’ radar and that is probably a good thing. Even I can learn more about myself and my issues as I hs my kiddos.

]]> By: Jenn http://childplay.wordpress.com/2008/02/04/reevaluating/#comment-988 Jenn Mon, 04 Feb 2008 12:26:24 +0000 http://childplay.wordpress.com/?p=252#comment-988 I'm right there with you, hon. My number one resolution for 2008 was going to be "stop being such a snarky bitch", but Joe talked me down. Seems he was hoping for something like "shave legs more often" or "bake brownies once a week", and he thinks my snarkiness is part of my charm. ;) Still - trying to be nicer. Not really getting anywhere with it, but trying. I’m right there with you, hon. My number one resolution for 2008 was going to be “stop being such a snarky bitch”, but Joe talked me down. Seems he was hoping for something like “shave legs more often” or “bake brownies once a week”, and he thinks my snarkiness is part of my charm. ;)

Still – trying to be nicer. Not really getting anywhere with it, but trying.

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